Have you ever met an arrogant author whose book you’d like to shove down their throat?
I don’t think I have. I’m lucky to be surrounded by talented and humbled writers who never make others feel inferior, but rather, who offer support and guidance. And I mean that.
But let’s be honest, I’m sure we have all, at one time, experienced a little jealousy toward peers who are enjoying some writing success. Even if you don’t like the book, or you think the author is a self-serving windbag, it’s always good to exhibit grace and congratulate them. Same goes for when you hit the big time: be gracious about your successes. People won’t forget how you acted toward others and their accomplishments, and will remember those times when you’re experiencing your fifteen minutes of fame.
Nothing’s worse than someone who whines, wallows, and whimpers about not being as successful as so-and-so. And no one likes an arrogant s.o.b. either. There have been some very well known authors who have publicly insulted other authors (who may struggle with character development or rules of grammar, but can suck readers in with a compelling story). It really bugs me when people try to bring down others and their successes. I may agree with them; that the writing stinks in these books, or that the characters are lifeless boobs, but I’d never join in on the bullying.
(I should point out that I’m talking about books that don’t promote hatred, racism, bigotry, intolerance, etc. Those who do write that crap deserved to be skewered, so fire away.)
Anyhow, if you’re a pretty well known author, then chances are, you’re a pretty good writer, so then you shouldn’t feel threatened, right? Just do your thing and shut up. And when you come across these high-horse writers, you don’t have to say congrats—choose to smile and nod. Be an example of grace and class, otherwise, it can come back and bite you in the ass.
Hello, April nice to meet you. Good Post!! Everyone needs to be more Gracious. And honestly, I’m very happy to read about fellow author’s successes and honestly I’m a little jealous too. I’ve yet to come across an author who is arrogant, not yet! I’ve only come across wonderful, helpful, and supportive writers. I guess I’m lucky.
Good to meet you, too, Cathrina! I’m always thrilled to read about a fellow author’s success since this is a tough business to really “make it” in.
I’ve been envious lots of times, but I try not wallow in it.
I suppose that’s the key; to try to channel the jealousy in a more productive way. But still…that can be hard.
I’ve come across a handful of folks who handle success without much humility. Yes, it is irksome, and unattractive. It is grating. As if life is a competition and they are keeping score, at least when they feel ahead. I hope that when any successes have come my way, I am able to conduct myself with a grace that honors those around me, and recognizes how much good fortune also has to do with success.
Thank you for sparking my thinking.
I think the fact that it irks you to see people who act in this way, is a good indicator that you don’t have to worry about your own conduct. And anyone who reads your blog will see that 🙂 (Hey, folks, check out Greg’s blog! https://dashthebook.wordpress.com/ )
I agree entirely. Writing is a lonely enough profession as it is. It’s nice to be acknowledged and to acknowledge others.
So true, John Paul!
Our writing communities here in Colorado are exceptionally supportive. Without those tribes, I probably would never be published. I think that’s why I love hearing about and promoting other authors. Paying that support forward seems like the right thing to do.
Absolutely!
I agree wholeheartedly. Though I am neither pretty or well-known, I never feel threatened. We are not competing against each other but all rowing toward the same shoreline of success.
Well said. You are a very talented writer, Dean, but you are pretty; at least you have that to fall back on.